I left my husband because he was cheating, ended up becoming his side-chick. I have four kids. When I divorced my husband due to his infidelity, I took my children with me, determined to provide them with a stable home.
I worked tirelessly to ensure they had a roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, food to eat, and their school fees paid. It was an arduous journey, with financial hardships constantly looming over us.
Single parenthood was never easy. I faced the relentless pressure of making ends meet, often delaying payments for my children’s school fees.
Four precious lives depended on me, and I battled tirelessly to provide for their needs, often teetering on the edge of financial collapse. The pain of my ex-husband’s infidelity still seared, like an open wound.
As I struggled, I began to ponder the reasons behind my ex-husband’s infidelities. I wondered about the other women and their circumstances.
Perhaps they, too, were searching for love and validation, or maybe they had children to support and lives to live. This perspective didn’t absolve my ex-husband or make sense of his actions, but it allowed me to see the humanity in his mistresses.
In my confusion and desperation, I reached out to my ex-husband. He was now remarried to a younger woman, and our interactions were limited to his occasional visits to see the children and provide some financial support. These visits became a bittersweet connection to the past, a reminder of what once was.
Ironically, I found myself entangled in relationships with other married men, seeking solace in the very cycle of infidelity that had torn my life apart. The irony was crushing. I was perpetuating a pattern I despised, seeking comfort in places that only deepened my despair.
As I approached menopause, I re-evaluated my life. My children, innocent and vulnerable, deserved better than the life I was providing.
They needed their father’s presence, but he had moved on, building a new life with his young wife. I was left to pick up the fragments of my shattered dreams.
I can’t stop thinking about my life and the choices I’ve made. My ex-husband treated us well until his infidelity was exposed. My children need their father, but he’s gone, leaving me to face the darkness alone. I’m trapped in this abyss, questioning every decision, every step that led me here. Why did I have to leave?
Now, I stand at a crossroads, questioning my path and seeking a new direction. My journey from a devoted wife to a single mother, and then to the side-chick of married men, has taught me hard lessons about love, betrayal, and resilience. It’s time to forge a new path, for myself and my children, and find a way out of this cycle of pain.
